Buddhist marriage is very simple and does not involve any complex ritual. The most pleasant thing about the Buddhist weddings is that they are based more on faith and less on religion. A typical wedding takes place in two parts, one is Buddhist component and the other is non-Buddhist component. The Buddhist component involves offering prayers along with gifts to the monks and Buddha image. The non-Buddhist component engulfs traditional practices followed by the family of the couple.
Pre Wedding Rituals
The first practice amongst Buddhists is horoscope matching. It is
deemed quite important and is practiced with ardor. After matching the
horoscopes of the prospective bride and groom, the boy's family in
consultation with the lama decides an auspicious date for putting the
proposal of the wedding. The next ceremony is the Chessian Betrothal
ceremony, wherein the maternal uncle of the bride is seated on a raised
platform. The priest recites prayers and gives 'madyan', a holy drink to
everybody. This is followed by fixing of the wedding date in
consultation with the astrologer.
The wedding ceremony usually takes place in a temple. Firstly, both the
bride and the groom bow in front of Buddha image. After this, they
recite certain prayers and chants and light incense sticks and candles
in front of the image. Then the parents of the couple put a loop of
strings on their heads to connect them. After this, the couple makes
offering to the monks such as flowers, food, sweets and medicines. At
times, token money is also given to the temple.
The priest then places a thread on the heads of the monks. Recitations
in Pali language are made to evoke blessings for the newly wed couple.
The string is connected to a container that is sanctified after the
ceremony. Also, a red paste is applied on the foreheads of the bride and
the groom. Though Buddhist weddings are not very formal but their form
has changed significantly. Initially monks did not attend the weddings
as they are present during the funeral rites. Nowadays, the role of the
monks in weddings has become quite profound.